For John, BLUF: Soon there will be a pill for everything. Nothing to see here; just move along.
The New York Times Magazine has an article on a new pill under development that could be the female answer to Viagra. The author is Daniel Bergner and the title is "There May Be a Pill For That". Here is the crux of the issue.
Dietrich Klusmann, a psychologist at the University of Hamburg-Eppendorf in Germany, has provided a glimpse into the bedrooms of longtime couples. His surveys, involving a total of almost 2,500 subjects, comprise one of the few systematic comparisons of female and male desire at progressive stages of committed relationships. He shows women and men in new relationships reporting, on average, more or less equal lust for each other. But for women who’ve been with their partners between one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire far higher. (Within this plunge, there is a notable pattern: over time, women who don’t live with their partners retain their desire much more than women who do.)OK, but what are the long term consequences of solving this problem, if it is a problem? Just as there is no free lunch, there is no solution without new problems.
In the mean time, better living hrough chemistry.
Regards — Cliff
The article is talking about lust, relationships don't survive on lust alone.
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ReplyDeleteI agree, although I am not sure I would use the word lust for a natural sexual attraction. But, yes, to sustain a marriage you need more than sexual attraction and sexual action. Forty-seven years come Saturday has convinced me of that.
All that said, if couples don't understand how things change in marriage, from physical attraction to true love, then they may well decide to terminate the marriage when it is just really getting started, and that is a bad thing.
Regards — Cliff
Conversely, relationships without lust have difficulties whether or not they are articulated. We should avoid trying to compartmentalize aspects of human behavior which act in concert with other affective factors to influence behaviors. This is one of the reasons that Cialis, Viagra, and so on are not the panacea that Big Pharma would have us believe.
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