For John, BLUF: In the end you can think there is an evil force out there (from your siblings to God) which is holding you back, but it is all on you, in the end. Nothing to see here; just move along.
This is from Medium, by Ms Brittany Hunter, 23 January 2018.
Me explaining it is not as good as you reading it.
Hat tip to the InstaPundit.
Regards — Cliff